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Why Should I Set Goals?

Posted on January 24, 2014 at 2:05 AM Comments comments (0)

Wonder why some people could not even achieve an inch of what they dream of becoming? Many seem to blame it on pure dreaming and lack of setting goals for achieving their dreams. 

You must understand that goal-setting is a very significant part of success and positive accomplishments. For example, it's like scaling a 20 feet building and marking early on what feet you would like to reach at this specific period. 

People who set goals literally create a map of their target achievements in life, marking where they should begin, where to pause, where to delve a bit, and where and when to stop. Once this map is created, it allows the map drawer to check where he is in the scheme of things and whether or not he is making some achievements that will take him closer to his goals. 

By setting goals, people will know how they are doing and what they should be doing to achieve their targets or dreams in life. They will know if they can relax or if they have to double their efforts when they are falling short of what is expected of them.

Goal setting means a person is proactive in dealing with challenges that may affect his plans. Being proactive means one is able to outline possible difficulties that may occur as well as the solutions to these difficulties. By doing this, a person is not easily scared or defeated when challenges occur because he has already prepared for them. He knows they can happen and he has prepared a solution or strategy when that time comes. 

Setting goals will enable people to track their progress in whatever endeavor they have set out to do. It will help people become more confident in themselves and more motivated to achieve their plans.

However, goal setting is not enough, as this should be accompanied by a positive outlook and self-discipline. A person may have a blueprint of where he wants to go, but if he does not have the necessary discipline to carry out the plan, then nothing will come out of it.

To be successful in goal setting, the goals that one has set for himself should be realistic and based on his capabilities, as well as selected and important external factors. Being too ambitious in setting up goals can make the goals unrealistic and difficult to achieve. However, do not also set goals that are too low because this might discourage one’s vision instead of achieving it.


It is also necessary that the person setting the blueprint for his direction should also include a time frame within which the goal will be achieved. This way, he is able to determine if he has to fast track his strategies or to slow down a bit. Goal setting will also help a person check if he is performing within his plans or if he is doing things towards the achievement of his plans.


Once you have achieved something, even a little of what you hoped to achieve, then you should always give yourself a pat in the back to keep you motivated. But do not be too complacent with any little achievement, as this may cause you to backslide.


Setting goals can be used in any aspect of one’s life - from one’s personal or family life, to his career and finances. Goal setting can be as simple as setting a target weight when you wish to lose pounds or something big, like earning your first million.


When setting goals, it is always important to set standards that would suit your present situation, your capabilities, and other factors that may influence the achievement of your goal.


2014 is my year!

Posted on January 9, 2014 at 9:40 PM Comments comments (0)

I am looking forward to this year, God gave me three words to walk me through the next 11 months...overflow, increase and abundance! I was thinking of deleting this website, but I just need to get on my post and be consistent with my journaling. So here I am again, at first if you don't succeed try, try again, lol. Please become a daily reader and help me stay focused. Love you all, Happy New Year!

Sip ice water.

Posted on August 11, 2013 at 12:00 AM Comments comments (0)

It keeps your cells hydrated and helps you burn calories. Reason. Whenever you drink something cold, your body raises your metabolism to keep your body temperature from falling. That process burns calories--eight 16-ounce glasses of ice water will burn an extra 200 calories per day. Strategy. Start the day with eight to 16 ounce of ice water. Sip a 16-ounce glass every hour or two, keeping one next to you at work and at home. Overall, you should drink eight glasses a day. Finish up by 7pm to avoid having to use the bathroom after you go to bed.

Homemade Salad Dressing

Posted on August 6, 2013 at 9:55 PM Comments comments (2)

Many people will surprised to know, especially those who have eaten my cooking, that when it comes down to it, I really hate to cook. I've never really liked it, but the joy I get from seeing my family happy at dinner time makes it so much easier for me to stand over a hot stove and put together a good 'ole southern meal. No one really actually took the time to teach me how to cook, I really don't know why. Many times my grandmother would shoo me out her kitchen when I became too inquisitive and started asking a bunch of questions. My guess is that maybe she just didn't have the patience for a curious little 8 year old girl. However, I decided that I wasn't going to be denied the right to learn how to cook, so I stopped talking so much while I was in the kitchen with her, and just began to watch her silently as I mentally took notes. And as I got older, I was finally invited to help with preparing the family dinner. I really don't know why I hate to cook, nothing dramatic occurred or anything of that sort, I just would rather have someone cook for me, and I be the one to take care of the dishes after wards. Now that I think about it, I love to clean up my house from top to bottom, now that's what I love to do, clean, I could do that all day long, but that's an entirely different topic. Let's carry on...well, I decided that I would use this section of my journal to share pictures and recipes of the dishes that I prepare for you to use at your discretion. But I must warn you, please be sure to proceed with caution when using my form of measuring; I use the old fashioned "eyeball it method" and "I just know how much guesstimate" - that's just the way it is, and that is how grandma used to it, now I am stuck with this bad habit, and I know I am not the only one :D


  • I am addicted to Hidden Valley Ranch Dressing. I put it on everything, it was a time in my life that I could not live without it until I realized that it caused me to gain extra pounds. I really hate this extra love handles or butter rolls I have on each side of my back. Finally, I have cut back a whole lot, but it's still my favorite, it's my BFF, so today when I looked in the fridge and noticed we were low, I was forced to come up with a darn good replacement, and lo' and behold, I did!
  • Recipe for simple Homemade Salad Dressing: (Serves 2-3 people with small side salad) 3 tablespoons of mayonnaise (I use Hellman's), 1 tablespoon of Apple Cider Vinegar (after you taste it you can add more if you like), 1 tablespoon of Spicy Brown Mustard, a sprinkle of onion powder, garlic powder, and oregano, a dash of salt, and a dash of pepper, and 3 big dashes of Worchestershire Sauce, don't worry about adding too much in it because the vinegar will even it out. Be free to use your taste buds, they will never lie. Mix really well until it's a smooth consistency. Now drizzle over your salad, as little or as much as you want. That's it, I hope you like it. Here is a picture of my creation, and the second one is my dinner plate; on it is fried chicken drum sticks (I LOVE fried chicken), rice with mixed veggies, tossed salad with my wonderful homemade dressing. Oh, by the way, my baby son had some and he said, "Mmm  Mama! This is really really good! You did a great job!" I love that little guy, he is so awesome. Okay, be sure to come back and leave me a comment and tell me how it turned out for you. Have Fun!  
P.S. Did I mention that I love to eat? ;-)


Achy, Sleepy & Tired

Posted on August 3, 2013 at 10:45 PM Comments comments (0)

I think the worst thing that I could be dealing with at the tender age of 39 is menopause. After I was diagnosed with NHL Cancer 2 years ago and taking chemo, my menstural cycle went away. I didn't know that this would put me in full blown menopause because my doctor's forgot to inform me of this. I thought I was literally going crazy until one day I called my mother and told her my symptoms, and she brought to my attention that I may be in menopause. I was so upset because the hot flashes, crazy mood swings, aches and pains where driving me up the wall! I was really thankful for my mama because it gave me a big sigh of relief. Then shortly thereafter, I went to my family doctor so she could draw up blood work to confirm it for sure. And of course, when the test results came back positive for menopause, my doctor brought in with it, a perscription called Escitalopram (Lexapro). At first, I was happy about it, because I knew it would help me get my emotions in check, but after researching the side effects of this mess, it wasn't long before I turned to a more natural alternative. I was amazed because my mama has been using a natural remedy for years and she is doing great. So now, I alternate between two products that are very inexpensive but  very effective! So I just love them both! My first choice, Remifemin and my second choice, Estroven. These products both have Black Cohash helps control the symptoms of menopause such as: headaches. hot flashes, mood changes, sleep problems, heart palpitations, night sweats and vaginal dryness. But lately, I've been in pain and very tired. I hate the fact that my body goes through the motions of having a menstural cycle during that usual time of the month, minus the yucky stuff, which I must admit that the minus is truly a plus ;-) However, I just don't like taking a nap in the middle of the day, and wake up still trying to shake the pain. I try not to take to many pain pills because that is unhealthy too. So many times I just take a good warm shower and use my Royalty Spa Collection Lavender-Vanilla Body Lotion; in which I make with my very own hands. In my bedroom,  I have a misting fountain in which I put several drops of lavender essential oil in the water to help me relax and temporarily take my mind off the pain. So today was just one of those days, but thanks be unto God I made it through. Just tired of being achy, sleepy and tired. Please pray for me....

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I Love Costume Jewelry!

Posted on August 1, 2013 at 10:55 PM Comments comments (1)

Today my son and I walked to the mall today for two reasons: One to get exercise so I can lose weight, and two so I can go shop and find some beautiful costume jewelry! I don't know what it is about me and this fake jewelry (real talk), but I just love the fact I can get so many different pieces without breaking the bank. My favorites are earrings, bracelets, and long necklaces; I can shop for them all day. It's a great form of therapy for me, I can spend a whole hour in Charming Charlies just browsing around and shopping for bargains. Usually, when I am sad about something this is how I make myself feel better, shop for costume jewelry. I used to be a little careless with my stuff, until I realized that I was wasting money by not taking care of my jewelry and then would have to run to the store and get more. So, I decided that I need a jewelry box, and I noticed that the cute little ones in the store weren't big enough, and the big fancy ones were too expensive. So I one day I was in Walmart and I bought a fishing tackle box and I have been in love ever since. It's convenient and makes organizing everything a breeze. Do you love costume jewelry? If so, please share. 

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Happy to be Nappy?

Posted on January 30, 2013 at 9:05 AM Comments comments (0)

Since the day I started growing my hair back, I decided not to wear it locked. I wanted to try something different. I knew going back to locking my hair was something I am familiar with, so deep down inside, I just didn't want to go back to the familiar. My hair is natural, no relaxers, or any other chemicals in my hair. I don't even use regular shampoo because of the harsh ingredients in it. I use Dr. Bronners when I need that extra clean feeling, and then on a regular basis I co-wash it. Now here is the deal; at first my hair started to grow back straight and really soft, I was happy because I just knew in my heart that it was going to stay that way. But as time when along it began to get thicker and thicker, I was like oh cool straight thick hair, I can deal with this. And then all of a sudden it started to curl up....tightly....and then it got kinky...very kinky...what we are used to calling nappy. UGH! I was like, "Oh, no! How am I going to deal with this stuff?" I know the trend now-a-days among black women is the "natural" look, but honey let me tell's a challenge! It would be days I would just look in the mirror in pure disgust and not even put a comb through my hair because I was scared it would hurt. I would lie in my bed and just pull on my hair in deep thought wondering, "What in the world have I gotten myself into?" My husband is so sweet, he told me that he really likes my hair because it's all natural, so then he would lie in bed with me and pull on my hair too. My son told me it looks like a big fluffy cloud and he thinks that it's cool. I was tempted to just lock it when I put finger coils in it for a nice style when I went to visit my family in North Carolina, but I'm not one to give up so easy. The other night, I had my husband laughing, I told him I looked in the mirror and my hair reminded me of Ole' Otis off the Martin Show back in the day, remember him? ROFL  - So am I happy to be nappy? Not yet, but I am really working on it!

Life is precious...

Posted on December 22, 2012 at 9:10 AM Comments comments (0)

One valuable lesson I have learned is this: As I grow older life becomes more precious as the days go by, therefore, if you love someone, and things are not quite right in your relationship, you will try everything in your power to make it right. Christ was born so that we may have life, He died so that we can have it more abundantly. Hear me, make that phone call, send that email, go and visit that friend or special loved one. The treasure that you once shared is worth fighting for and most importantly God will be pleased with your humility and effort. Remember on this Holiday Season, the greatest gift that we can give is LOVE.

Get your FREE CareRx Card

Posted on July 17, 2012 at 1:00 PM Comments comments (0)

Go to my webpage now and print out your FREE prescription card and save up to 10% - 75% on all FDA approved drugs. I am blessed to be a blessing, you don't have to struggle alone, God will always provide water in the desert, so that we can not just survive but thrive! (As spoken by Pastor Joel Olsteen)

Words To Know

Posted on July 2, 2012 at 8:55 AM Comments comments (0)
  • Chemotherapy (kee-moh-THAYR-uh-pee): Treatment with drugs that kill cancer cells.
  • Side effect: A problem that occurs when treatment affects healthy tissues or organs.


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